Direction?

         This is an open letter, to all who wish to read.  I am very distraught in my time here.  I have just about everything that anyone could want in this world.  Yet I am depressed beyond belief only because I know I am not fulfilling my purpose.  As a man my job is what I do, I just can't wrap my fingers around the fact that I know I am working where I don't belong.  This leaves me feeling empty.
I am always so happy and grateful for everything, but with being sick and depressed most the time, it is hard to put motivation to work for me and achieve the goals I have set for myself.

        It is my desire to personally meet and help others find what their life purpose is, a life coach.  To be able to work with someone who wants to achieve more in their lives and help them reach the top, wherever it may be for them.  Truly my gift is with people, and I need to use it.  There is no reason for me to be depressed so much, other than my chronic migraines I am perfectly healthy.  I have a beautiful wife, with who I have been with for 8 years.  Two wonderful sons, age 3 and 1, a rescue greyhound who I adore, a very affordable but more than necessary house that is big for my family, amazing relatives who are proud of me and happy, plus some of the truest friends a man could ever ask for.  I have no reason to be melancholy except in the area of work.  Which is another thing, I love my boss, who I consider more of a friend than a boss,  who has given me everything I could ever need, including a great paying position and benefits, but if I am not fulfilled, so I need to ask myself, is that everything?

        I am quite thankful for all of these things.  Especially when it comes to my job.  Although, I will not feel the joy that I need to feel unless I am helping others through their careers and tough times.  I want to help people achieve their dreams.  I need to be mobile, always in motion, always talking and helping other people.  I cannot be stagnant, immobile, this adds to my despair.  So I wake up this morning, and take my responsibilities into my own hands, to dream a bit more and act on my thoughts.  If I must change things than right now is the best time to do that.  So I choose to walk on my own, through a ever changing world.  To soldier on for a true cause, my cause, to make me whole.

What do you see in your present?

Dreams and goals. Goals and dreams.  In school that's all everyone used to talk about.  What are you going to be when you grow up?  How many times have we heard that.  It seemed different back then, like we were going to choose our destiny, instead it seems our destiny chooses us.  If you have had a passion in your life that needs to be fulfilled do not rest until it has come to pass.  Your life will be meaningless without the completion of your dream.  We cannot be content with mediocrity and being comfortable.  To achieve more often we must risk more, and when it doesn't work out, you pick yourself up with a smile and keep going.  Your not a failure until you quit.  Take pride in your dreams, and make them work for you.  Break all of the barriers and norms of this life, if you want to be or do something bad enough then nothing can stop you.  Remove the barriers and fulfill your destiny.

To Change your life: Wake up and turn the wheel.

   Lost sight of your vision? or even worse, don't have a vision at all?  That's probably one of the worst places to be as a human.  We are all seeking some type of achievement, in anything that we do and as I know first hand a ' regular job' just doesn't cut it.  The only place you can really find this sense of achievement is being where you are supposed to be doing what you are supposed to do.  I know that my place is to help people realize this and to aid them toward a better life. 

Everybody needs a dream.  Think back to when you were a child and you dressed up as a doctor, or a fireman, or a nurse,  you didn't care about how you were going to do it you just did it.  As life goes on to many people get discouraged by circumstances of life, certain unfortunate situations, but to overcome these obstacles one need to be conscious.  You need to be awake, not just floating through life on autopilot never thinking about any thing, just doing.  When you are in this stage, you are the living dead.  You might as well be, because you make no conscious decision and therefore continue down the same path of mediocrity you have always gone down. 

        You truly desire for things to change in your life.  Yet you don't ever do anything different in your day to day habits and routines, therefore nothing changes in your life. 

     Then you give up hope go back to your comfort zone and stay in the rut you didn't want to be in anyway.  If you want your direction to change you have to grab hold of the wheel and turn it.  You must make daily, conscious decisions that positively effect your day and alter your life for the better.  You must turn those positive decisions into habits over time, and then you've got yourself a different looking life.

Now, back to the dreams.  Once you wake up and realize this isn't why you were put on this planet.  Then you need to outline, a path to make a dream or two.  Make a list that will build steps to that goal and work on achieving those steps everyday until you reach your goals.  No matter how long it takes.

Apply these truths to your life daily, and achieve more than you thought you could.  You are capable of doing great things,  Look at how far you have come.  Go get it.

http://www.attitudedriveslife.com/the-happiest-guy-in-the-world/

Do you want to be successful?

        Of course you do.  I have never met anyone who didn't want to achieve more in their lives.  But the main thing to remember about success is it isn't some magical, unobtainable thing.  It is really more of a perception of a certain thing.  One person my see success as raising a happy family and having a good job, while another my see financial abundance and the freedom to have the time to do as they please.  So it really does boil down to what you are currently seeking out of 'success'.  Then all you have to do is go get it.  Did that seem like it was too easy, well it is that easy.

        Start with a vision, whether that be a business you would like to start, or a product you would like to invent, and start laying the ground work, the foundation for that endeavor.  With a good foundation anything is salvageable.  Work to lay that good start and consistently and constantly gather the knowledge and resources you need to complete your foundation and start the next step.

       Then, as momentum helps you along continue building your vision, whatever it may be, you will probably want help along the way.  This is the place where you would reach out to others who have already done something similar to what you are doing.  Let them mentor you, take their advice and put it in to practice.  Keeping you self positive and consistently holding a good attitude will help maintain your momentum.  Don't let negative thoughts cloud your judgements.  Stay strong.

     Finally using your knowledge, deliver your product or service to the public.  Make quick decisions based on facts, not feelings or snap judgements.  The last thing you need is to get stuck in limbo, the back and forth thoughts about decisions.  You have achieved your first win, and you must learn how to make important decisions and not second guess yourself.  If it was the wrong choice, at least you stepped up and made the choice.  Indecision grows instability and fear, and often causes a leader to lose trust.  If you make a poor choice, stand by it, do not excuse it, pick yourself up and learn from it.


     Keep yourself positive, and upbeat.  Work hard and never stop.  Apply what you have learned and do so consistently and effectively.  Then nothing can stop you.

Why you are a failure.

Well, I am being sarcastic here.

 I do not believe anyone should be a failure.  Although the key to figuring out where in life you want to go lies within your own mind and soul.  If you feel you are a failure, the way to eradicate that feeling would be to first recognize that you are this way.  Second thing I would do is write a list of all the positive things about my self, and then the negative things.  Be honest, brutally honest.  Its a tough thing to do but on the page where you write will reveal the facts that show everything.  What your list will show you is exactly which habits in your life are destroying you and which ones are creating value in you life.  The goal is to list those good and bad habits in order of importance.  Which negative habits are destroying you the most, start there and list down.  Which habits are the best, write them down in the order you think is most important.  After you make your prioritized lists.  Look at only the top two things, one on each column.  Now comes the hard part, making a plan or an organized routine that cultivates the positive behavior, while you either stop the negative, or slowly wean yourself off of it, whatever it may be.

You see, when it comes to being successful, you must make conscious decisions.  How could you be mad a someone who worked everyday to be successful, when all you did everyday after work is eat, watch TV and fall asleep.  When they got home from work they ate, studied, or maybe invented something in their garage and started selling it.  Now they have extra money, and you sit there and look at them and say, "Its not fair".
When in all reality, it is fair.  They worked everyday, first to feed a vision that they had, then to turn that vision into a reality.  They made conscious decisions to better their lives and worked toward that goal.  So don't be bitter about how they achieved and you didn't.  They just adjusted their habits, they altered their routine.  Then they made conscious decisions in their daily lives that ultimately changed their future for the better.  Don't get stuck in making decisions on auto piliot.

The keys to being successful, isn't some wizard fairy tale or hocus pocus.  It is a daily change that you make in your life, and over time, those daily decisions build on each other to bring you to your desired outcome.  Which of course works the other way to, laziness and unorganization can become habits that will surely lead to a future of stagnation and bitterness.  That is why it is so important to destroy bad habits, set a daily routine, and most of all importance,  stay consistent.  There is no momentum gained with inconsistency. 

John Maxwell once said, "You will never change your life until you change something you do daily".

ATtitude

I know that attitude seems like a word that is over used.  So many people speak about it being 'the difference maker' and its used in so many motivational posters I think it has lost its luster.  Sometimes you need to step back and take a look at things from the outside to appreciate them.  This I feel is the same with some great words  that can teach and guide you through life.  Do not let them get stagnant let them sink in keep them fresh. 

Attitude is all about perspective.  You control it the second you get out of bed in the morning till the second you fall asleep at night.  Every choice you make starts you on a path toward an outcome.  Whether that outcome will be positive or negative is totally up to you.  But attitude is  one of those wonderful things that you can correct on the spot and turn around 180 degrees if you are heading in the wrong direction.  Thank God for that.

So make conscious decisions and always adjust your course to maintain positive mindset, and let that make your life easier, rather than hating everything and making your life miserable.

RIGHT NOW

The basic thing that we need to figure out is that our life is comprised of experiences, situations, and the decisions we make.  I personally believe that the people you meet and the places you go will shape your view of the world.  For example, if you meet someone inspirational you will probably try to emulate them in some fashion.  Whether you plan to or not, subconsciously you are drawn to be more like people who are successful, or accomplished in their lives, so naturally you try to be like them.  Second, If you visit a 3rd world country or the 106th floor on the Willis Tower, you will be left with an impression that you will not forget any time soon, this also will have bearing on your life.

What you need to realize is that although we plan for certain things, there are other circumstances that may come up in your life that you were not ready for.  The best thing to do is smile at those situations, take them in stride and persevere.  There is a treasure lying in the unexpected, you may learn a lesson, or realize that you are capable of alot more than you thought.  We always tend to undercut our abilities and have somewhat negative views about ourselves.  We our are worst critics.  So to grow through these situations, I suggest to never give up an opportunity to go out on a limb,  I am NOT saying do whatever you want without thinking of the consequences.  What I am suggesting is to analyze the decisions you are making or not making and take a few more risks, enjoy your ride through life.  Why waste it now and sit back saying, Well when I'm retired I'll do this, or go here, or learn this because I'll have more time.  The best thing you can do is start it now.

"Someday is a disease that will take your dreams to the grave with you".

The other day my friends and I were supposed to go kayaking. They ended up not being able to go, so I went anyway on a three and a half hour run.  I said to myself ," Why should I miss out on an opportunity just because no one else will go with me."  I went ended up having a wonderful time, taking in views of wildlife, and four hundred foot cliffs around every corner.  Plus I learned a lesson, I lost my paddle while maneuvering around a more difficult rapids that had lots of fallen trees obstructing passage, so I went around and my paddle ended up in the rapids never to be seen of again.  Instead of quitting or freaking out, I looked for about twenty minutes for it, then wrote it off, found a four foot tree branch that was about 4 inches thick and L shaped and used that as my paddle for the remainder of the trip, about forty five minutes.  I taught myself how to properly handle adversity alone, plus keep my wits and make tough decisions in critical situations.  When I got picked up at the end of my run, I had a smile from ear to ear, plus I had a cool story to tell.  Instead of my friends who spent the day 'relaxing'.  I lived.

Many of lives things happen only for a moment,  the view of a sunset,  making love, a hike in the woods, a wedding, a dance, a ballgame, even natural disasters.  Enjoy the present, make the right decisions, try not to pass up experiences that can improve your life.

How to change

To make a positive change you must change the way you think.  It seems pretty simple to wrap your head around.  Yet the reality is that too many in our society are way too 'busy' to slow themselves down and observe then act.  Often people just react to duties, situations and circumstances.  Instead of assessing the situation and parlaying their thoughts into a action plan that they can decide upon at that moment, they either react prematurely or they make no decision at all, creating either a explosive situation or a stagnant one.

If you understand what I am trying to say, to positively change you must train your brain to think differently.  So your 'auto-pilot' doesn't kick in when something happens.  You need to become real, slow down, and become the reality you want to be.  There are no limitations, anything you believe you can achieve.  I know these are all well used motivational poster quotes, but people are usually too busy to even think about them, let alone let them sink in and actually change their lives.

You can sail through life miserable at your present situation, your job, your health, or whatever.  Or you can focus on the right things, positive things. Be grateful for everything, at least you have a job, a home, are alive to enjoy things, look towards the future and envision your goals laid out there.  Ready to be achieved, able to be reached with just a little more focus, a little more work.  Positive people are always planning for something in the future with great expectations, negative thinkers only concentrate on how miserable their present circumstances are. 

Reassess your thinking and do not be afraid to reach, and set far off goals,  you will make a change.

http://www.attitudedriveslife.com/the-happiest-guy-in-the-world/